Why is it so darn hard to say, “I’m sorry”?
Everyone makes mistakes. Nobody is perfect. We’re all human. So why is saying “I’m sorry” so darn hard to do? We all have been hurt in some way, where an apology is exactly what the doctor ordered. It might not make the hurt go away, but the sting isn’t as strong, and forgiveness can take its course.
There are a million reasons why saying “I’m sorry” is so challenging. Who likes to admit they messed up? Maybe the person won’t accept it? I don’t think I owe them an apology…if anything they owe me one. If I apologize, they win, and I lose. Wrong, who me?! God knows I’m an expert in this topic…we all are! Each one of us has been on the hurt side and we have been the one who owes someone an apology. Probably more times than we would like to admit, right?
Sometimes it’s the fear of rejection that holds us back from saying “I’m sorry”. Will the receiver even listen to my apology? Will they give me the time of day? Others are so scared of confrontation. Somehow, they sweep things under the rug and just hope the whole situation just goes away on its own. I can promise you, it doesn’t! Then you have your complete denial offenders. There is no way in this lifetime you will ever get an apology out of them, because they never make mistakes. They either lack empathy or their ego & pride get in the way.
Saying sorry isn’t easy, it’s not supposed to be. That is why, a heartfelt apology done right can transform a relationship and heal a lot of hurt. It’s difficult to admit you hurt someone, that you caused pain, even if it wasn’t intentional. We sometimes need to remove our blinders and step in someone else’s shoes for a moment to understand what we did. All of this is vital for healthy relationships. We all want and need to feel safe, appreciated, loved and understood by the people we choose to surround ourselves with. We need to know the people we invest time in, care about our feelings and are willing to admit their flaws.
At the end of the day, making things right should always mean more than being right! So, if you owe someone an apology, now is the time to do it. Put on your big girl panties, be an adult, swallow your pride, reach into your heart and open your mouth and say, “I’m sorry”. Nothing but good things will come from it, I promise!